Things you need to know about rebounds

I don’t understand people who sit around waiting for some long lost love to come back to them. Move on already and see what else life has to offer. I mean, how will you know how great the next thing is if you are still doting on the past?
Rebounds are not always the best solution.  Net photo.
Rebounds are not always the best solution. Net photo.

I don’t understand people who sit around waiting for some long lost love to come back to them. Move on already and see what else life has to offer. I mean, how will you know how great the next thing is if you are still doting on the past?

Relationships are hard, that’s for sure. When everything is going perfectly, it’s literally all we think about. However hard times happen but its just life! You’re not getting any younger so sitting home wondering if a certain lover will ever come back to you isn’t advisable– life’s too short for that.

Feel free to handle your own issues your way. If you want to wait around and see if your ex will come back to his senses and reclaim you, by all means do that. If you are the ‘won’t-sit-around-waiting-for-you kind of person, then I can only assume moving on is a walk in the park!

If you are in a rebound relationship then that means you are preoccupied and therefore not exactly bored. It also means you aren’t numbing that pain from a breakup with pizzas and milkshakes so you are not packing on any weight. However, this also means you are trying to avoid dealing with sadness which might weigh on you later.

If there is one thing great about rebounds it’s that even when it is not very convincing, you are moving on. You might secretly still curse your ex or wish he’d style up and come back but stepping out with Mr. Biceps’ gorgeousness wrapped around you tells the ex a different story! Your new guy is hotter and smarter and totally better in bed - or at least that’s what you’re telling all your mutual friends.

On the other hand, there is a chance a rebound will make you feel even worse than you did when the last relationship ended because you jumped into something way too quickly. Like I said, we all have different ways of handling these situations. Men mastered the art of moving on and some women are fast learners – so there you have it.

Some women feel that rebound sex is the best solution to a breakup. Another friend of mine (excuse my crazy friends) almost never cries over a broken relationship. Matter of fact, she’s always the one ending them and I’m forced to believe hers are just a string of miserable one night stands thrown together!

Most times, she wonders how it can be called rebounding when she feels relieved ending these liaisons. In a way, she’s right. It can only be a rebound if you are taking things hard and need immediate consolation from the arms of another man.

If you’re crazy like that then that’s you – we won’t judge. But I think in this case, the problem isn’t trying to move on – it’s convincing yourself you are better off without anyone in your life hence moving on from one unstable guy to another.

Whether you choose to sit around and wail about that lost love, or move on faster than you were dumped or simply drop the idea of dating, one thing I’m certain of is – never rebound with a friend, especially a friend of your ex. Nothing good can come out of that other than your own insecurities and paranoia eating away at you every second of every day.

Spare yourself the trouble and the awkwardness and stay away from friends. Not only will it ruin your relationship, it will simply make you feel stupid – after all, the point was to hurt the one who hurt you, but did that erase anything?

 

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