Here’s how to understand what men want in a woman, without feeling confused or lost.
Men don’t want a challenge, but they do want to be challenged!
Actively trying to make yourself a challenge will only leave a guy interested in the chase. And when women make guys obsessed with the chase, the guy loses interest in the woman he’s chasing soon after he’s “caught” her
Alternatively, being a challenging woman implies a sense of continuity, rather than becoming a single challenge which once completed becomes boring.
How do you become a challenging woman?
Answer: What men really want is a woman with her own life. What a man wants is to know that he is being fitted into your weekly planner, rather than you giving up everything and going to set up camp in his!
I can’t stress this enough, in men’s minds it is unattractive if after only a brief time with him you give up the rest of your life (friends, family, hobbies) and replace them with him.
But take note – this is absolutely NOT the same as the old idea of “playing hard-to-get”.
Why hard-to-get doesn’t work
Playing hard to get is only an illusion of independence, which will quickly vanish after the ‘chase’ is over.
Hard-to-get only teaches you to pretend to be an independent, interesting and confident woman, instead of truly being one.
Looks aren’t enough
A common misconception from women about what men really want, is looks. As I said before, guys reserve their deepest level of respect and attraction for those women who are independent and confident in their own life, with or without a man. Remember, when a guy is attracted solely by looks, he has then formed in his mind a singular challenge.
If anything happens it will have been on the basis of physical attraction solely, and therefore the guy will have completed the challenge of getting the woman, who he is only physically attracted to, rendering the woman much less worthy of attention.
Perhaps this is why many men may have one-off flings with much younger girls, but the same men have a much deeper sense of desire and attraction for more mature women; often significantly older than them, with whom they often enter into more meaningful and passionate relationships founded on their attraction to the woman’s independent and challenging nature.
Remember, confidence and independence is sexy, people-pleasing, being needy and fake isn’t. True confidence and independence will keep you sexy for a long time to come, but it needs to come from within. The power to be what men want is, and always has been, within your grasp.