It couldn’t be more wrong
There used to be this thing called privacy. It was really great and there was a time when people had the right to it. But somehow, some people felt it was their sworn duty to rudely encroach on the privacy of others.
I don’t know about you but when I am buying a phone, it doesn’t come with a receipt that says my boyfriend has rights to it. My phone and everything in it is my business. Call me shady but privacy is my right.
I can assure you that even the culprits of this crime understand it is not right. Why else would they wait for their better half to go to the bathroom or leave the room to check their phone?
It really isn’t about having something to hide or trying to prove that you don’t. It’s about respect for each others privacy. It’s about trust. If you are certain your partner is not being faithful and the only way to prove it is through their phone then I suggest you skip the snooping around and simply dump them.
Seriously, there is simply no point in being with someone you don’t trust at all. Why must you sink so low as to snoop around in another’s phone and computer? To be perfectly honest, most times, when you have that gut feeling that something is wrong, it usually is. So forget the snooping because you will most probably confirm your fears and also have to suffer with the knowledge of what you actually found!
Snooping is the lowest level of insecurity not to mention extremely disrespectful. Sometimes ‘the less I know the better’ truly applies. Sure, looking through his phone and seeing some shady message that suggested he is cheating would send me into a fit. But true cheaters, or at least the experts, do not leave a shred of evidence to find.
People who complain about a partner having shady messages but then are even more bothered when a message inbox is empty amuse me the most. What is it they want? Instead of jubilating that no worrying message was found, they now seek to know why the whole folder was empty!
A friend of mine told me that her boyfriends’ phone was all she cared about. I couldn’t help but wonder why she was letting herself age prematurely. She insisted that not a day would go by without her checking it. I asked if she had found anything unusual and she said no. Why she still insisted on checking it was beyond me. It was like she was waiting to find something.
Maybe some people do not mind having their phones checked and that’s great but for the ones who care – they are entitled to their privacy. It shouldn’t matter whether they are married or not because even the vows don’t sat anything about sharing a phone!
Some people take the obsession too far by trying all possible ways to hack into a partners’ online profile or email. That is the lowest thing you can do in a relationship. A relationship with no trust is hardly a relationship at all. Work on building trust and you won’t have to snoop around like a thief.