Women

KWEZI AND I: Of well-laid spoilt plans

I am almost done with my annual leave and I am just amused at how things turned out. All these plans I had with Kwezi evaporated into thin air. First, according to my plan, I was to travel to Uganda and spend a week of rest and recuperation. It was necessary, especially with the nature of the work...

Thursday, May 17, 2018 - 5:06am

What is troubling my daughter?

My 14-year-old daughter is always getting into fights with her peers at school and her academic performance is poor. She gives me the impression that she is studying or doing homework when she is at home but it looks like that is not what she does. She has changed several schools with little effect...

Thursday, May 17, 2018 - 5:06am

How effective is the morning after pill?

Dear Doctor, I am 24 years old and was recently introduced to the morning after pill. However, how often can it be used and what are the effects?  Is it the best option or should I go for something more long-term? Rita ----- Dear Rita, The morning after pill is for emergency contraception...

Thursday, May 17, 2018 - 5:06am

Probing the myth about women empowerment

In this women-empowerment rich age, I just received a WhatsApp forward titled “MAIDS TAKEOVER”; to the effect that suitors now prefer maids to our daughters for marriage. So while girls are going for their Masters and PHD’s, maids are taking care of the home and children, hence,...

Thursday, May 17, 2018 - 5:06am

A letter to my sister, the single mother

Sheroe, You always think you made a mistake according to society perception. But remember some mistakes pave way to success and blessings. Who doesn’t know that children are a blessing? I want you to believe you are strong, powerful, and able to do what many are unable to do. You are...

Thursday, May 17, 2018 - 5:06am

What’s it like to be a female sports journalist in Rwanda?

It is easy to think of sports as macho. This is because the field is dominated by men — and not just the athletes — but reporters too. Sports journalism has historically been a difficult area for women to break into. But lately, there are many prominent female sports journalists around...

Thursday, May 17, 2018 - 5:06am

Mother’s Day: Celebrating mothers who raise children with severe disabilities

In Rwanda, like in many other countries, certain disabilities such as Cerebral Palsy are regarded by many as shameful and a curse to the family. Most families break apart because of these children and many parents blame themselves or choose to believe that an enemy bewitched their child. In...

Wednesday, May 9, 2018 - 11:26pm

Stay stylish during this rainy season

Staying stylish is every woman’s desire despite the occasion or weather. This rainy season, you don’t have to be left behind as far as fashion is concerned. Fashion designers say looking good during this season doesn’t need a lot of effort, infact; one can still rock in rainy...

Wednesday, May 9, 2018 - 11:04pm

A single mother’s touching story of raising kids with disabilities

Diane Mukamulisa, a resident of Kagondo 2, Nyarutarama, a Kigali suburb, is a 30-year-old single mother of five children, two of whom are plagued by multiple severe disabilities that have left them unable to talk. They live with severe neurological and skeletal deficiencies. Darius Mutuyimana, 7,...

Wednesday, May 9, 2018 - 11:01pm

Does my son have an ear infection?

Dear Doctor, My three-year-old son keeps scratching his ear and I’m beginning to think it might be some sort of infection. How can I know for sure, and can an ear infection lead to hearing loss? Beth ----- Dear  Beth, How long has your son been scratching his ears? Is it...

Wednesday, May 9, 2018 - 10:58pm

AKWOS in move to empower women through sports

The Association of Kigali Women in Sports (AKWOS) in partnership with districts is seeking  to empower women in peace building, gender equality, and leadership skills through sports. The Training of trainers (TOT) drive will be held in form of workshops and they will involve training of...

Wednesday, May 9, 2018 - 10:53pm

How can I crawl out of depression?

Dear Counsellor, I have been seriously depressed for the last six years. 10 years ago, I was in a relationship with the man of my dreams. We were deeply in love. We started to live together for a few years with the intention of getting married. We even bought a small house together. However, it...

Wednesday, May 9, 2018 - 10:50pm

What the ‘MeToo’ campaign means for women empowerment

Late last year, Twitter was awash with the the ‘Me Too’ campaign which had went  viral as a hashtag used to help demonstrate the widespread prevalence of sexual assault and harassment. Though the campaign was initially started by Tarana Burke, an African-American civil rights...

Wednesday, May 2, 2018 - 10:09pm

Do asthma preventers have long-term effects?

Dear Doctor, My 5-year-old daughter has asthma. What are the dangers or effects of using an asthma preventer long-term? I heard that using it for years might cause bone shrinkage. Is it true? Kate ----- Dear Kate, Asthma is a state of hyperresponsiveness of the airways of the lungs, which...

Wednesday, May 2, 2018 - 10:08pm

Why doesn’t my teenage daughter sweat?

Dear Doctor, Is it normal for my teenage daughter not to sweat at all? Even when she runs around, or on a very hot day, she doesn’t sweat. Why is this?  Faith ----- Dear Faith, Sweat is produced by sweat glands in the body and the main function is to regulate body temperature,...

Wednesday, May 2, 2018 - 9:45pm

How to pair the right necklace with your neckline?

For women and ladies, accessories flush up their looks; necklaces can  enhance fashion or kill it depending on how you have matched it. When you do not pair the right necklace with the proper neckline, your look might be off, busy or exaggerated. You have to think about elements like color,...

Wednesday, May 2, 2018 - 9:41pm

KWEZI AND I making memories

I am finally going for leave and I am excited beyond word. I last went on leave in June last year and I have been feeling exhausted and not motivated to go to work. Everyone needs a break and my time to require one has arrived so for the next two weeks, I will do nothing work related. I am not...

Wednesday, May 2, 2018 - 9:35pm

Why won’t my father acknowledge me?

Dear Counsellor, I am an ‘outside child’ with anger issues because I was not treated properly. My father has four children with his wife and me with my mother. The other four children went to high school and then university. However, I never went to university and had to drop out...

Wednesday, May 2, 2018 - 9:19pm

Of two devils: Gender abuse at the height of ethnic discrimination

Fighting for women empowerment, in my opinion, boils down to fighting for dignity. When for all your worth, you are reduced to being just a woman, a tool for reproduction, sex, and to a larger subtle extent, an enslaved being that has to succumb to the demands of culture and society. This couldn...

Thursday, April 26, 2018 - 1:50pm

True worth of women empowerment is development and achievable SDGS

About 10 years ago, seated from a vantage view of Rwinkwavu Hospital in Eastern Rwanda, I was fascinated by the number of people flooding the out-patients window for free medical care.  It turned out that free food rations and housing were amongst other things provided for vulnerable patients...

Thursday, April 26, 2018 - 1:49pm