Women

Tired of my boring marriage

Dear Counsellor, My marriage is not working. I have tried, but it is not working. My husband is dull. My parents gave us an all-expense paid overseas trip to try and spice up our marriage. There was brief improvement while we were overseas, but we are now back to square one. He is doing well at...

Wednesday, April 25, 2018 - 10:32pm

School dropouts on building foundation for a better life

Jeanne Mukamana was barely 20 years old when she got pregnant in high school and was forced to drop out. As fate would have it, the boy responsible for the pregnancy abandoned her, and then family and friends followed suit. She was left to fend for herself, and she had no idea how to do it....

Thursday, April 19, 2018 - 2:15am

Why doesn’t my teenage daughter sweat?

Dear Doctor, Is it normal for my teenage daughter not to sweat at all? Even when she runs around, or on a very hot day, she doesn’t sweat. Why is this?  Faith ----- Dear Faith, Sweat is produced by sweat glands in the body and the main function is to regulate body temperature,...

Thursday, April 19, 2018 - 2:06am

Knitwear: Cozy and chic

Knitted outfits have been around for ages, what most people do not know, however, is that the trend is not limited to sweaters or scarves. The options are unlimited, and in this rainy season, warm but stylish clothing is your safest bet. They range from sweaters and skirts, to dresses, hats and...

Thursday, April 19, 2018 - 2:03am

How can I help my friend overcome her grief?

Dear Counsellor, I’m a student at a higher institution of learning in Kigali. My best friend, like many others, lost many of her loved ones, including her parents, during the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi. Every April, she gets very sad and I would like to help her.  Last year, she...

Thursday, April 19, 2018 - 12:49am

KWEZI AND I: Two steps ahead, three back…

For the past week, I have been confronted by something that most people would perhaps find trivial. Well, after celebrating the fact that Kwezi had graduated from pampers to a fully potty trained belle, it seems that again; I celebrated too soon. Kwezi has been off diapers for a reasonable amount...

Thursday, April 19, 2018 - 12:49am

From tradition to modernity: Tracing the footsteps of the Rwandan girl

In manysocieties, when a girl gets married, she leaves her family and instantly becomes a member of the family she’s wedded into. In Rwanda, and many African states, girls have traditionally been valued immensely largely because of dowry. Back in the day, girls were expected to behave a...

Tuesday, April 17, 2018 - 11:38am

Meet the women drumming their way to prosperity

Drumming is a common form of entertainment in Rwandan culture; however, the idea of female drummers was unheard of in the past. 100-year-old Elizabeth Nyirahirwa from Rusizi District vividly recalls that in the past, it was a taboo for a woman to be a drummer. A woman who turned into a drummer was...

Tuesday, April 17, 2018 - 11:29am

Forgiveness

It is amazing how often this word “forgive” is spoken during this time of remembrance and commemoration of the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi. Ironic, isn’t it? The crime of genocide is beyond comprehension. An attempt to exterminate a race, a people, from the face of the earth...

Wednesday, April 11, 2018 - 11:31pm

Of two devils: Gender abuse at the height of ethnic discrimination

Fighting for women empowerment, in my opinion, boils down to fighting for dignity. When for all your worth, you are reduced to being just a woman, a tool for reproduction, sex, and to a larger subtle extent, an enslaved being that has to succumb to the demands of culture and society. This couldn...

Wednesday, April 11, 2018 - 11:27pm

Genocide: Tales of the traumatic road to survival

52-year-old Devota Mukarurangwa was three years into her marriage when killings broke out during the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi. Even though the disturbing memories are still fresh 24 years later, she says that she will not let the daunting past define her present. The first impression of...

Wednesday, April 11, 2018 - 11:23pm

Why won’t my baby breastfeed?

Dear Doctor, My newborn baby has refused to breastfeed. She’s four days old. I’ve tried everything, and the milk is in plenty but she refuses. Is she sick? The nurse said it will happen in time but I’m worried. For now, she uses the bottle. How can I get her to feed? Alexia...

Wednesday, April 11, 2018 - 11:20pm

My husband kicked our pregnant daughter out

Dear Counsellor, Our 20-year-old daughter is pregnant and my husband told her to leave the home. This is a drastic shift on the part of my husband because she was his ‘sunshine’. She completed S6 and did very well in her examinations. My husband would boast to relatives and friends of...

Wednesday, April 11, 2018 - 11:18pm

How saving groups are helping women keep poverty at bay

Around 11am on Thursday last week, women gathered in the compound of a local organisation in Karongi District in Western Province. The group of 30 sat in a circle around a large table on which money — mostly in notes of Rwf5, 000 denominations —was placed. One woman standing inside the...

Wednesday, April 4, 2018 - 11:54pm

Why does pregnancy make the feet swell?

Dear Doctor, I’m 30 years old and 6 months pregnant with my first child. However, my feet swell so badly and sometimes I can’t even fit into my shoes. How can I control this? What causes it? Berna ----- Dear Berna, Is the swelling more in the mornings or evenings? Does it come...

Wednesday, April 4, 2018 - 11:48pm

Lipstick; choosing the right colour

Many women can’t do without lipstick; it doesn’t matter if she’s at home, visiting the local grocery store or on a night out. It is — to some — an essential addition that helps enhance one’s look. However, a good number of women are not crazy about ‘...

Wednesday, April 4, 2018 - 11:42pm

Will he abandon his child?

Dear Counsellor, I am 23 years old and a finalist in college. After missing my period for two months, I decided to take a pregnancy test. The results turned out positive. I informed my boyfriend, also 23, who was not pleased at all. He told me to find a ‘solution’ because according to...

Wednesday, April 4, 2018 - 11:39pm

KWEZI AND I: Negotiating the journey back home

After a month and a week away, my parents finally accepted to give me back my Kwezi. I say ‘give me back’ because I surprised both myself and my parents when I let her stay that long. I was tired of leaving my parents’ house looking very miserable every time I picked up Kwezi...

Wednesday, April 4, 2018 - 11:34pm

How Rwandan women in science are empowering girls

Last week, Rwanda Association of Women in Science and Engineering (RAWISE) was officially launched. RAWISE was first established in December 2015 by a group of Rwandan female engineers and scientists with the view to help encourage more Rwandan women to pick interest in and join science and...

Thursday, March 29, 2018 - 1:34pm

KWEZI AND I... Of abrupt sickness and panic attacks

It has been an eventful one week, a reminder that perhaps, when God gives us children, He should also give us a manual of what to expect. What else explains the sudden shift from laughing and running around to suddenly being rushed to hospital? I came from town and went to my parents’ house...

Wednesday, March 28, 2018 - 11:03pm