Women

Of two devils: Gender abuse at the height of ethnic discrimination

Fighting for women empowerment, in my opinion, boils down to fighting for dignity. When for all your worth, you are reduced to being just a woman, a tool for reproduction, sex, and to a larger subtle extent, an enslaved being that has to succumb to the demands of culture and society. This couldn...

Thursday, April 26, 2018 - 1:50pm

True worth of women empowerment is development and achievable SDGS

About 10 years ago, seated from a vantage view of Rwinkwavu Hospital in Eastern Rwanda, I was fascinated by the number of people flooding the out-patients window for free medical care.  It turned out that free food rations and housing were amongst other things provided for vulnerable patients...

Thursday, April 26, 2018 - 1:49pm

Davos 2018: Gender parity is about men and women, not women alone

This decline was observed in the workplace, the education and health sectors, and in political representation. It was estimated that should this rate of decline continue, it would take 217 years to close the global economic gender gap. During panel debates, various arguments were made as to why...

Thursday, April 26, 2018 - 1:48pm

Progressing by merit, not favour

‘Can we compete without conflicting?’, was the closing question by Dr. Donald Kaberuka during a panel session at the recently concluded ‘Umushikirano’ in December 2017. I thought it very pertinent not only professionally, but also in our day to day lives. How I would love...

Thursday, April 26, 2018 - 1:47pm

The other child

The first time I saw this happy-go-lucky young lady (let’s call her Norine) was at work.  As we got talking, she told me she and her husband had one son, five years or so, and a baby girl on the way. ‘You had him pretty young’, I remarked, and she simply smiled. Little did I...

Thursday, April 26, 2018 - 1:46pm

Gender equality: rights and roles

The year 2017 has seen a spate of grave domestic violence incidents in Rwanda. The most recent case was Mukeshimana Marie Rose, killed and buried in her compound by her husband. Sadly, most of these victims had been silently enduring physical and psychological abuse for a long time. Over the past...

Thursday, April 26, 2018 - 1:45pm

Breast cancer victims on strengthening the fight against the disease

Four years ago, Charlotte Mukagatsinzi experienced changes that worried her. She fell sick regularly – which was unusual – and was always tired. Her worry turned to absolute fear when she discovered a lump in her breast. Something was wrong and so she went for tests. Imagine her...

Wednesday, April 25, 2018 - 11:04pm

My mother has difficulty walking

Dear Doctor, My 56-year-old mother has trouble walking, she complains about pain in her hip from time-to-time but she refuses to get a walker or cane, or see a doctor. I worry about her. What could be the issues and how can I get her medical assistance? Maria ----- Dear Maria, It is possible...

Wednesday, April 25, 2018 - 10:50pm

Tired of my boring marriage

Dear Counsellor, My marriage is not working. I have tried, but it is not working. My husband is dull. My parents gave us an all-expense paid overseas trip to try and spice up our marriage. There was brief improvement while we were overseas, but we are now back to square one. He is doing well at...

Wednesday, April 25, 2018 - 10:45pm

KWEZI AND I: Of unexplainable tantrums

Children, as I have always said, have an interesting way of giving a unique perspective to many things without trying at all. Kwezi is at a point in her growth that most people call ‘sweet’. Out of seven days, I agree with them on that, at least for five of them, and for that, I am...

Wednesday, April 25, 2018 - 10:34pm

School dropouts on building foundation for a better life

Jeanne Mukamana was barely 20 years old when she got pregnant in high school and was forced to drop out. As fate would have it, the boy responsible for the pregnancy abandoned her, and then family and friends followed suit. She was left to fend for herself, and she had no idea how to do it....

Thursday, April 19, 2018 - 2:15am

Why doesn’t my teenage daughter sweat?

Dear Doctor, Is it normal for my teenage daughter not to sweat at all? Even when she runs around, or on a very hot day, she doesn’t sweat. Why is this?  Faith ----- Dear Faith, Sweat is produced by sweat glands in the body and the main function is to regulate body temperature,...

Thursday, April 19, 2018 - 2:06am

Knitwear: Cozy and chic

Knitted outfits have been around for ages, what most people do not know, however, is that the trend is not limited to sweaters or scarves. The options are unlimited, and in this rainy season, warm but stylish clothing is your safest bet. They range from sweaters and skirts, to dresses, hats and...

Thursday, April 19, 2018 - 2:03am

How can I help my friend overcome her grief?

Dear Counsellor, I’m a student at a higher institution of learning in Kigali. My best friend, like many others, lost many of her loved ones, including her parents, during the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi. Every April, she gets very sad and I would like to help her.  Last year, she...

Thursday, April 19, 2018 - 12:49am

KWEZI AND I: Two steps ahead, three back…

For the past week, I have been confronted by something that most people would perhaps find trivial. Well, after celebrating the fact that Kwezi had graduated from pampers to a fully potty trained belle, it seems that again; I celebrated too soon. Kwezi has been off diapers for a reasonable amount...

Thursday, April 19, 2018 - 12:49am

From tradition to modernity: Tracing the footsteps of the Rwandan girl

In manysocieties, when a girl gets married, she leaves her family and instantly becomes a member of the family she’s wedded into. In Rwanda, and many African states, girls have traditionally been valued immensely largely because of dowry. Back in the day, girls were expected to behave a...

Tuesday, April 17, 2018 - 11:38am

Meet the women drumming their way to prosperity

Drumming is a common form of entertainment in Rwandan culture; however, the idea of female drummers was unheard of in the past. 100-year-old Elizabeth Nyirahirwa from Rusizi District vividly recalls that in the past, it was a taboo for a woman to be a drummer. A woman who turned into a drummer was...

Tuesday, April 17, 2018 - 11:29am

Forgiveness

It is amazing how often this word “forgive” is spoken during this time of remembrance and commemoration of the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi. Ironic, isn’t it? The crime of genocide is beyond comprehension. An attempt to exterminate a race, a people, from the face of the earth...

Wednesday, April 11, 2018 - 11:31pm

Genocide: Tales of the traumatic road to survival

52-year-old Devota Mukarurangwa was three years into her marriage when killings broke out during the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi. Even though the disturbing memories are still fresh 24 years later, she says that she will not let the daunting past define her present. The first impression of...

Wednesday, April 11, 2018 - 11:23pm

Why won’t my baby breastfeed?

Dear Doctor, My newborn baby has refused to breastfeed. She’s four days old. I’ve tried everything, and the milk is in plenty but she refuses. Is she sick? The nurse said it will happen in time but I’m worried. For now, she uses the bottle. How can I get her to feed? Alexia...

Wednesday, April 11, 2018 - 11:20pm